eBook - How to Understand and Implement Healthy Boundary Function
by Melanie Tonia Evans

Boundaries are everything!

Boundaries not only improved my life, they saved my life, so this is why I am a REALLY big fan! It amazes me, now that I know boundaries, just how little I knew about boundaries, and how my life was so crippled as a result...

It continues to astound me how many people don’t understand boundaries. Especially women. Virtually every woman I know struggles with boundaries. (Sorry guys I’m not meaning to discount you, it’s just that generally you seem to have a better handle on boundaries that what us girls do...)

What astounds me more than all of this is – WHY WEREN”T WE TAUGHT THEM?!

When your boundaries are poor

I know that if I’d known boundaries before now I wouldn’t have:

• Suffered the painful relationships I did.
• Given and given to get thinking that that was going to secure me love and happiness.
• Allowed other people to abuse me mercilessly.
• Compromised myself so many times thinking that ‘feeling guilty’ must mean that I should do what I really didn’t want to do.
• Say ‘yes’ to things and people in my life that would frustrate me and drain me on an everyday level, and undermine my life on a cataclysmic level –  emotionally, mentally and financially.

Can you relate to any (or maybe ALL) of the list above?

The cool thing about establishing boundaries is that I’m no longer all bent out of shape about those things. What’s done is done, and quite frankly they NEVER have to be done again.

Why not? Because I now HAVE BOUNDARIES!!

If, like me, you never knew what boundaries are, or if your boundaries are being continually compromised, you may just think other people are ‘rude, ‘arrogant’ and ‘don’t do the right thing’.

This may be true, but a greater awareness of all of these uncomfortable and violating times is much more useful.

That awareness is: IF you don’t know what your LIMITS are, other people WON’T either.

An additional awareness is - YES bad people, rude people, arrogant people and people who push boundaries do exist. WAKE UP! You are not the boundary police, you can’t change these people, declare war against them and lock them all up, but you CAN make sure that YOU have solid and intact boundaries and then these rude people will go to someone else who has poor boundaries instead!

How nice would it be to feel empowered and trust yourself and know that you don’t have to put up with feeling uncomfortable, violated, taken advantage of, drained, abused and taken for granted?

I can tell you, it feels TOTALLY amazing....

Boundaries might seem really complicated, and trust me they are when you have no idea ‘what is yours’, ‘what isn’t yours’ and how to distinguish between the two. Boundaries are also really hard to ‘do’ when you have no idea how to communicate them and be assertive.

I used to explain, justify and tie myself in knots when I tried to ‘do’ boundaries, and would end up in even more of a mess, and would easily be manipulated into letting them go again. In fact it was all so horrible and ‘yucky’ that I used to just give in and save myself all the trouble.

Was it any wonder that life and people used to dump all their stuff on me? In fact I had a saying about my lack of boundaries. It went like this “Come on in and wipe your feet in me, and in fact why not your butt as well?!’

Yes, pretty funny...but really it was far from amusing...

Anyway, back to the seriousness of the topic... If you don’t have boundaries, life and other will shape you into what they are, and then you never get to be YOURSELF! OUCH!

Setting boundaries to create win-win scenarios

Maybe ‘being yourself’ feels selfish,....I know it used to for me (a severe boundary problem), however as I and many other people discover, after working on boundaries, When you honour yourself and your own integrity, you honour life and others in beautiful win-win ways..

Think about it.....

• Were you REALLY giving with love when you were resenting doing it...?
• Were you REALLY helping people by doing it all for them and allowing them to be stuck in their own ineffectiveness and fear....?
• Were you REALLY creating a healthy life for yourself and others when you stayed stuck in situations that clearly weren’t serving you....?

NO!

Am I hitting a chord? I hope I am! In fact I’d be delighted to shake you up to realise how important boundaries are, and just how much of your ‘fuel’ you’re burning on struggling in situations that are constantly draining you.

The freedom you can know with boundaries in your life is remarkable. Why? Because when you learn how to say ‘no’, you will have all the space and energy to put into the things that you want to say ‘yes’ too!

Pretty cool – huh!

And these things are:

• Happy and healthy relationships
• Hobbies, pastimes, passions and missions
• Giving to people that are appreciative, who DO have the resources to reciprocate.

And so, so, so much more!

How this eBook will empower you

This eBook will show you the vital information that has always eluded you about boundaries, such as:

• What boundaries are
• How these can be applied to ourselves
• Why it’s so necessary for us to assume and embrace self-ownership
• How our childhoods may have contributed to our poor sense of boundaries
• What a healthy boundary function looks like, and why it’s such an important aspect of self
• The price of having a poor boundary function
• How to know when you have holes in your boundaries
• The understanding of what mature and immature boundaries are
• How people with poor boundaries push boundaries
• How we allow people to ‘dump’ their energy on us
• How high expectations violate boundaries
• The importance of establishing and setting limits, and how these limits create your identity
• How emotional dishonesty and poor boundary function creates widespread disempowerment and confusion
• How failing to respect yourself creates others disrespecting you
• Overcoming the guilt of setting boundaries
• Empowered ways to say ‘no’
• Creating win / win solutions whilst setting boundaries that empower everyone concerned
• The consequences and gifts of non-aligned and aligned choices
• The 5 Golden Steps in order to set ANY boundary in EVERY area of your life.

I say ‘YAY’ to boundaries, and I know that when you read this eBook you will too! You TRULY will not know yourself when you’ve discovered HOW to lay boundaries!!

Order this eBook now and change your life, like I did, beyond description!! Take a Sneak Peek Inside

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