eBook - How to Recognise and Heal from Narcissistic Abuse
by Melanie Tonia Evans
Before you read this information, please know that although it has been written in the context of the narcissist being the male, ABSOLUTELY female narcissists do exist, and if you are a male who has experienced a narcissistic relationship, this information is definitely relevant for you.  In such a case please substitute the inference of ‘he’ for ‘she’...
Narcissism is rampant on the planet, sad but true... it’s in epidemic proportions and is getting WORSE.
Are you living in a nightmare?
When I was in my narcissistic relationship, for a long time I had absolutely NO IDEA what I was dealing with. And I know that there’s every chance that you didn’t know either. Thank goodness we now do. We’re some of the lucky ones, because we’ve received the synchronicities that finally led us to the truth. Can you imagine the plight of the women who may never discover?
For a long time, before I knew the truth, all I knew was that I was being demented beyond ANY level of dementia I’d previously experienced. It was like being stuck in a bad nightmare, or a really bad horror movie that there was NO WAY to wake up from...
I know you also know this feeling. And it’s UTTERLY soul destroying. We can all attest that there is NO PAIN LIKE IT.... and the sense of helplessness and powerlessness is TOTALLY overwhelming.
As a result, many women end up not knowing which way is up or down. In fact it was a wonder I still knew my name. I did know my name, but I certainly didn’t know who I’d become... She was a woman that I never thought I’d be - a shattered shell, a tortured soul and a total psychotic mess.
Now, some years later from this experience, I’ve met this woman so many times. In fact, as I’m writing this, I’ve just finished a Quanta Healing™ session with a narcissistically abused lady right now.
Assisting women and men recover from narcissistic abuse has become my full-time vocation. This work is VITALLY required, because traditionally, a recovery from this form of pathological and sociopathic abuse is a long, drawn-out process, and one that more often than not is unsuccessful..
Sadly, many women NEVER recover themselves. I totally relate, as during my relationship ordeal I thought it was my fault. I thought if only I could do this, or that, or improve this or make that move, that gesture, or that comment - or maybe not make that move, gesture or comment - that surely this would stop and my life would return to some level of ‘normal’...
The emotional war zone
Little did I realise that REGARDLESS of what I did or didn’t do, the rules were always changing and I certainly didn’t have access to the rule book.
Then I discovered there was NO rule book that applied, because there was no ‘normal’ and I was living in a WAR ZONE where no ‘normal’ rules applied. It was a parallel universe that defied ALL logical and human comprehension.
In this crazy, insane reality, I kept trying to jump up to the height of the bar he held up for me - by telling me that no matter who I was and what I did, that it was wrong. I tried AGONISINGLY to provide him with what he needed to become the delightful, amazing man I thought I had when I originally met him.
I tried as hard as I could to win back this prize. But no matter how high I jumped, the bar got higher and HIGHER.
Eventually I realised even the bar was a phony. There was no prize to win. And even worse I discovered that every time I crashed, when I missed the bar, he enjoyed and EVEN DELIGHTED in the pain I experienced with these failed attempts.
Little did I know that the man I was trying to love was the same man who was DESTROYING me piece by piece...
I know you can relate to this, even if you may be finding it really difficult to...
If you’ve had a relationship, or are having a relationship, with a narcissist, it’s imperative that you source out the checklists that are provided widely throughout the web, (one source being my articles Narcissism Understood, and Common Narcissistic Expressions and Behaviours), and you‘ll soon realise that you’re ticking off an alarming number of points.
The traits of narcissism are FRIGHTENINGLY consistent. So many of the points are the same... it’s as if narcissism was manufactured somewhere and most narcissists came off the same production line...
One of the least understood aspects of narcissism is the psychic, emotional and mental cords that exist between you and the narcissist. You feel embedded in the relationship, tied to him and the addiction pull is intense. There are so many aspects of the connection that keep dragging you back in time and time into the game, REGARDLESS of how much you know you need to break away.
I know you know that feeling; because all narcissistically abused individuals do.....
Breaking free and staying free...
The truth is ‘staying on’ leads you to the inevitable grand finale, which is either being discarded, or co-creating your own demise... Not fun, and an EXTREMELY serious situation.
If you’re are in a narcissistic relationship, or struggling to recover from one, your position is PRECARIOUS. Narcissism is a MAKE OR BREAK DEAL! You evolve and become empowered, or you stay as a battered and crippled mess.
One of the most frightening characteristics of narcissistic abuse is that you have ‘time bombs’ constantly in your head and emotions that continually relive the injustice, manipulation, pathological twists and turns and malicious inhumane acts.
I know and you know how hard it is to recover by trying to get your head around HOW people can be like that! It’s VIRTUALLY IMPOSSIBLE when using contemporary methods.
Therefore, in the case of narcissist abuse TIME DOESN”T HEAL ALL WOUNDS! I’ve met women 30 – 40 years down the track who are STILL crippled in their ability to function effectively or create a life of love, success and happiness.
It DOESN’T have to be this way...
Believe me I am doing all I can to assist solving this problem....
Firstly, if you’re in a relationship like this, you need to GET CLEAR about what it is that you’re living with...
Then you have to make a serious decision as to whether or not you’re prepared to keep living your life with a narcissist, because you certainly can’t change him.
If leaving, then you need to understand how to stay away, and what is necessary for your recovery. The last thing you want to do is stay on the ‘hook’ indefinitely getting pulled back in to the abuse, and additionally you certainly don’t want to run the risk of attracting and sustaining another narcissistic relationship...
Seriously, after getting out, could you even IMAGINE having to try and go through all that again??? I’m sure you’d rather not......
How this eBook will benefit you
This eBook will grant you the understanding of:
- The traits of a narcissist
- How narcissism is created
- The varying degrees of narcissism
- Why psychology often fails to cure the devastation of narcissistic abuse
- How to know if you’re in a narcissistic relationship
- How you became hooked in the narcissistic relationship
- What happens when you start detecting something’s not right and questioning the narcissist
- How the fully blown narcissistic personality appears
- How the narcissist projects his tortured self on to you
- The deadly aspects of the addiction to the narcissist
- How you become ‘narcissistic’ yourself
- What to do when you’re in a relationship with a narcissist
- Setting boundaries when dating and beginning a new relationship in order to identify narcissists
- Setting boundaries in narcissistic relationships, and
- Specific and detailed information regarding how to recover and empower yourself from narcissistic abuse.
I know this information has the potential to save your life and then LIBERATE you life... and if you’re on this page reading this information because of your experiences with a narcissist, there’s NO DOUBT you need this eBook!
Answers to the nightmare are here for you right now...
Order your eBook for only $14.95AUD
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