I recently came across the Melanie Tonia Evans website by chance at a time when I was in need of help. As a result I ordered the eBooks (i) how to recognise and heal from co-dependency, (ii) how to understand and implement healthy boundary function and (iii) how and why to do "no contact" when narcissistically abused. I found the eBooks easy to read and to the point, and I was amazed at how accurate the information was in how it explained exactly what was going on in my life. I decided to take my healing a step further and I ordered the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program and started to engage in the eCourse as well as Quanta Freedom Healings. I have done a huge array of self-development courses in the past (including the most expensive ones), and I have to say that Melanie’s simple but so effective approach to healing and empowering yourself is the only one that I can truly say has really worked for me. The easy step by step processes enable you to really think about what is going on in your life, and then empowers you in amazing ways to move forward. As a result of the eCourse and healings I have been able to get off antidepressant medication, and reclaim my life in a few short weeks. I am no longer a victim, cannot believe how wonderful I feel, and I have the knowledge to create a wonderful life and make choices for myself, and no longer have to please anyone else. Melanie’s resources are far superior to anything I have ever come across, and her desire to help and heal people far exceeds any individuals or organisation I have ever experienced before.
~ Maria Byworth Perth, WA, Australia
I think Melanie is the most amazing person, and her work is literally lifesaving. I don’t know where I would be if I hadn’t found Melanie’s website when I did. I had spent my whole life repeating destructive patterns and behaviours, being co dependent and looking after everyone else- except myself. I was a mess – psychologically, emotionally and financially – and I could see no way out of it. My whole life was a mess. I was an intelligent educated person – but I had no idea what to do and I desperately needed help. I had years of conventional counselling from psychologists who were great to talk to, but couldn’t help me. I just keep repeating the patterns and getting into more and more trouble, pain and heartache. Until I found Melanie’s website – I knew as soon as I read Melanie’s work, that Melanie would help me. I was so excited –someone understood me! For the first time in my life, I found some hope. Melanie’s work had such a powerful impact on me – I just knew I had to learn more. Melanie’s eBooks gave me an understanding of what I had been doing all my life – and how I needed to find the true me. The Quanta Freedom Healings shifted the pain, the hurt, the anguish and the years of repetitive behaviours. I couldn’t believe how fast the Healings worked – in one session alone I went from manic hysteria to calm. That’s when I knew I had to stay working with Melanie. I am in the process of healing myself and my life though Melanie’s wonderful work. I have read Melanie’s Books and I am now working on the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program with Melanie’s help – and I am so much better already. I am more positive and confident now. I know I have a future. I know I can manifest good things in my life. I know I can find my true self. I know I can manifest a great partner when I am ready. But most of all, I know Melanie is always there to help me. I have recommended Melanie to many people, because I believe in what she does, and her success.
As a family lawyer I see many people at the worst time of their life – separated, alone and scared, abused physically, mentally and financially – most often as the result of Narcissistic Abuse. They don’t know what to do to help themselves and change their lives. They certainly don’t know how to heal the damage heaped on them by their abusive narcissistic ex partner. In my profession I have seen an increase in Narcissistic Abuse within our community. More and more people are suffering this abuse and the conventional methods of help just don’t seem to work. Because of my own personal journey as someone who has suffered narcissistic abuse, I can recognise these people and their pain. Melanie has the skills and knowledge to help these people, to heal them and change their lives forever. I have referred many of my clients to Melanie to heal their lives. There is a huge demand for something that DOES work in treating narcissistic abuse – and Melanie can do this, and I have seen how individual’s respond so positively to her processes and how rapidly. Melanie’s work is groundbreaking and exciting, and I will continue to refer both clients and friends to Melanie. Thank you Melanie - for being you and for sharing your knowledge with us all.
~ J. Murray, Family Lawyer VIC, Australia
Melanie I would just like to express my heartfelt gratitude for your assistance and expertise in bringing me to a place of healing, the results and the outcomes have been nothing short of remarkable. I have embarked on a number of personal growth and development journeys through the years with varying results but none have provided the results that our work together has provided with such profound effect. I had become resigned to the fact that the patterns of abuse and suffering in my life was 'just my lot', however you have shown me and clearly demonstrated that I have the capacity to retain the power of choice in any situation. I know in myself now that I am capable of doing more than just survive. I can choose to thrive. Thank you.
~ Mark L. VIC, Australia
I was in a 14 year long relationship with my ex narcissistic boyfriend. It was in the 12th year when I decided to break up with him but it took two more years for me to completely detach from him. During those last 2 years, I knew I should stop communicating but every time he initiated contact - whether it be online, by phone or physical – I allowed it all, or I too initiated contact. I couldn’t find the strength to completely detach from him despite me experiencing varied forms and degrees of abuse (physical abuse during the first 2 years of our relationship, emotional/psychological/mental abuse the succeeding years). But still I stayed on. I read tons of books on abuse, I attended meditation sessions, however I couldn’t let go. My health suffered dramatically and I was diagnosed with multiple health complications, yet still kept seeing my ex narcissistic partner. Things continued until I discovered that while he was still being intimate with me he was preparing to marry someone else. I was so hooked I continued to see him. I was destroyed emotionally. I needed answers and stumbled across narcissistic information and the pieces started making sense. I then discovered Mel Tonia Evans’ Blog talk radio show and listened to her shows. Listening to these shows literally helped me sleep at night. I started engaging in Quanta Freedom Healing. After doing so I found myself crying and looking at the mirror and telling myself “I love you.” and “I’m sorry.” I also became more aware of how I could be mean to myself and stopped myself midway whenever I found myself about to say, “I’m stupid.” During a particular one-on-one Quanta Freedom Healing session I had with Mel, the pain of my ex left, and was replaced by light. I could identify the real reason I had sustained the relationship, and it was something I can now point at, identify and even thank. Also, my body literally felt ‘light’. Finally I was free. Now when I speak about my previous ordeals , my chest feels light, my head feels light. I still use Quanta Freedom Healing to help clear and clean deep levels of anger, self-anger, hate, self-hate, pain, sadness, resentment, guilt, regret and any emotional issues I have with my ex, my family, and with myself. I realised it were my choices all along, my decisions, my inclinations, my beliefs, my self-beliefs, the beliefs I learned growing up which helped foster my codependency. I no longer binge on food, I sleep well at night, I go to the gym regularly and my health issues are vastly improving. Through Melanie’s work I also discovered the importance of working on myself continuously and consistently via journaling, self-healing and meditation. Quanta Healing made the process of accepting myself (dysfunctions and all), LOVING myself, RESPECTING myself easier and NATURAL. Reading my journals from the past years and a few months ago - and reading the darkness/sadness/desperation I felt - I never would have considered that what I am feeling and being now would ever be possible. If not for Melanie and Quanta freedom Healing, I feel I'd still be in emotional crutches and despair.
~ J. Dugena Content Writer, Manilla, Philippines
I came to Melanie whilst I was in a relationship with a narcissist and was in extreme pain, both emotionally and physically. I felt I was going crazy, and was at the end of my tether, feeling that the relationship would literally kill me. This relationship had been just one of many abusive, controlling relationships that I had been in over a number of years. All my life, my pattern was to become involved with men who were physically and mentally abusive. The narcissistic relationship was the tip of the iceberg. Whilst trying traditional counselling over the years, I had learnt to overcome each relationship as it ended, but never got to the core of the issue - which was me, and my lack of love for me. When I found Mel, she not only saved my life - but turned on a light bulb that had never before been lit. Within weeks I began to feel better, and the pieces of my life puzzle started to fall into place. Mel gave me the confidence and support to leave the narcissistic relationship, and over a number of weeks, helped relieve the pain and suffering that the experience had left me with. Over the next few months I began to take my focus off the narcissist, and on to me. This is when the really fun healing starts - as you start to discover the real you, and why the patterns in your life have occurred. This has been a journey which has seen many tears, but as the tears subsided - I got me back in return. I now have a completely different outlook on life, I know myself at a level that I never thought possible, and I am creating some great experiences in my life. Mel not only saved my life - but she opened me up to a journey of self discovery and empowerment which I simply can't put into words.
~ Janice WA, Australia
I found Melanie’s site by accident, even though we know there are no such things as coincidences. I resonated with what she had to say. It all seemed to make so much sense. So I bought her two books and I wasn’t disappointed. I was so impressed by Melanie’s sincerity and the truth of what she had to say, that I booked a healing with her directly via Skype. 20 000km separate us but it was as though she was in the room with me. All I can say is that if you are hesitating, DON’T because Melanie can do in one session what you have been trying to overcome over many years. She is spot on and if the vibrational, energetic level isn’t on a par with your actions and your decisions your spiritual progress will be much more difficult. Don’t be put off by distance. I live in France and Melanie lives in Australia. I cannot recommend her services highly enough. She is hands on, competent, reliable and gives 200% of herself. If you need my references, don’t hesitate to contact me.
~ Jackie L, France
Melanie, I just wanted to write & let you know of the unexpected freeing experience from listening and participating in the 1st MP3 of the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program. First I read all the No Contact ebook - Fantastic & True. Then I read the Healthy Boundaries eBook again 'Yes Yes Yes, so True!' Then the MP3 - to be honest I sat there listened, it's similar to therapies I've come across in the past that usually take hours to process and get through layers. My rational brain kept saying “How is this really having an effect on you, Melanie’s recorded voice says 'there it's done' however it's a recording??” Yes I do now feel detached, balanced, happier, yes I received an abusive blaming email out of the blue, but I laughed rather than the usual fear. I still have much to work thru BUT this recorded healing session is nothing short of a Miracle. It's a jump into a field of Positive Alignment. It shifted the shifts the fog, and Brings in the Light. Thank You Melanie, I'm another step further towards a fully healed Soul and Heart.
~ M.Walker Brisbane, QLD, Australia
I have been plugged in via your e-books and the archived radio shows which are bringing me to quiet tears of Thanks Giving to you and your Team. I have only recently found you. I haven’t cut my teeth yet with Quanta Healing but certainly plan to. "How to Disconnect from the Narcissist Practically and Emotionally" Radio is soooo dead on, hammer hitting the nail squarely on the head is an understatement, I simply do not have the words to ever fully express myself to you. I only divorced when my family literally placed me in the car and drove me to the office of the Attorney I had been speaking with. I knew, as did my family, that there was no question I was going to die if I were not to finally in my heart say “Enough!”. However, the abuse amplified after the divorce which took me out again - I mean out for yet another year and more. Divorce was final late December 2009. I swear, and cross my heart that since finding your site I am experiencing hope. Please understand I have spent 4 years with therapists (2) along with books, books and more books, countless articles and videos on the web but Melanie, you have got it!! I know it. I can feel it. I believe your work is going to save my life. Hear that PLEASE. Your work is saving my life. Therefore, giving me the tools, ability and opportunity to pass along the gift of myself to my precious children, and that my dear is priceless. I am recently out of my bed for goodness sake. Back from the dead so to speak, but do not feel I am speaking prematurely in my belief or my 'knowing' that you will be a tremendous part of my healing and I say THANK YOU!
~ B. Smith, South Dakota USA
Before I "accidently" came across Mel’s website I was searching for answers on many levels. Why had I fallen in love and had a child with a narcissist? How did this all happen to me and why? I was in "victim" mode. I had been in pain from this man for over 12 months before I found Mel. Counsellors and psychologists put it down to "just bad luck." I knew there had to be more to it. Through Mel’s website-her Quanta Freedom Healings, Empowered Self eCourse and books I found my answers. Through her own experiences, she gave me the insight and knowledge to look inside myself to discover the reasons why I attracted this man into my life. I took responsibility, and was no longer a victim. Once I began working with Mel I discovered a strength I didn't even know I had. It has been about 18 months since I found Mel and I can't even begin to explain how much I have changed as a person. I am no longer affected by my ex husband, I am living my own life now. Mel has helped me look inside to discover the person that I truly am and to see this whole experience as a transformational gift. This amazing journey that I have been on (and am still continuing!) has been life changing and I know I wouldn't have recovered as quickly or as deeply if I hadn't found Mel. Thank you Mel!!
~ J Hall, Graphic Designer NSW, Australia
I had been in terrible pain and anguish for ten years, and I was barely able to function. Every therapy I tried didn't help. After one healing session with Melanie I knew instant relief, and felt a strength and peace that I didn't believe I'd ever feel again. After two sessions I have my life back on track, in perspective, and I'm no longer haunted, terrorised and destroyed by my previous narcissistic relationship. God I wish I found this earlier! I urge every broken woman out there to make an appointment with Melanie as soon as you possibly can.
~ Lynda M. Scotland
I am very successful. I am intelligent. I am resilient. I have been through a lot on my life and come out on top. So it surprised everyone when I met my ex-boyfriend, and then became hooked to an abusive narcissist. A year into this relationship I was a nervous wreck. I had lost $1million, I had lost friends, and I had lost confidence. My entire life was going to ruin while I used every second of every day trying to deal with my narcissistic partner’s behaviour. I knew it was wrong. I relied heavily on my psychologist. I went to a hypnotist. I relied on anyone who would listen for two seconds. But I could not get out. Nothing helped. Then I stumbled across Melanie's website. I devoured it like a person obsessed. Then I realized she was in Australia. I called her. I was at rock bottom. I was circling insanity, and that was on a good day. Finding Melanie was the turning point for me. I had a lot of work to do but Melanie was my guide. She never judged me. She knew where I was in my journey out of hell. She knew when I would relapse. She predicted it then guided me out. Life with a narcissist is the most poisonous and dangerous thing you can experience. Being addicted to a narcissist is a powerful addiction. However the most confusing part comes after you leave. The aftershock. The post traumatic stress disorder. The burning desire to go back there. I can honestly say that if I had not met Melanie, read her material, done her Empowered Self eCourse, and most importantly the Quanta Freedom Healing sessions by the phone each week, I would have lost everything, and I would have been committed to a mental institution. Regardless of how capable I was, I was losing my mind and didn’t have the resources to cope – despite spending a great deal of money and time in therapy, until I started doing work with Melanie. I am not being dramatic or over the top when I say I owe Melanie my life.
~ Christine Clarke, Director, Studio 55 QLD, Australia
When I contacted Mel, I was at the lowest point of my life. I had made a decision to leave my marriage from a narcissist, but the fallout of the devastation of the betrayal was something I did not have the tools or personal strength to cope with. I was researching narcissist experts when I chanced upon Melanie’s site. I felt her perspective on narcissistic recovery was unique and knew instantly, she was who I wanted to work with because I think unless you have walked in the path of one who has suffered at the hands of a narcissist; you cannot truly help another narcissistic abuse survivor. When I started my phone sessions with Mel, I was so personally incapacitated by grief; I could not leave the house. I could barely care for myself personally. A hair wash seemed beyond me. Now after four months, I can say without a doubt, I could not have gotten my life back on track without Mel’s help. Her sessions have fast-tracked my healing in a way I never thought possible. Every session has been warm, encouraging and full of incredible insight. Mel has the ability to get to the root of issues very quickly and skilfully, and she has a very unique way of helping you resolve those issues almost instantly. When I felt, I had no light in my life, Mel was there to say, “I will help you light the way, so you can move forward.” I went from a woman who could not function, to a woman who is back at work, taken on new hobbies with gusto and who is living and laughing again. I will always be grateful to have had the opportunity to benefit from the truly life-changing sessions with Melanie.
~ MNM, Singapore
After having experienced disaster after disaster and reaching an all time low in my life – I contacted Melanie with great scepticism about whether life could ever be happy again. I met with Melanie, had several Quanta Freedom Healing sessions with her and ordered her Empowered Self Course also. Words cannot express what I brought away from the experience. Within such a short period of time I went from being a literal nervous wreck – the most miserable, negative person I knew – to reforming into the carefree, loving, trusting and grateful girl that I am today. I have learnt to stand my ground, forgive myself and others, lay personal boundaries for myself and communicate much more effectively with others. Best of all (and the greatest gift of all) I have learnt to love myself. Thank you Melanie
~ Ange H. VIC, Australia
I felt so helpless and was ready to give up before I started my work with Melanie. It seemed as though things were only getting worse, and I was to the point that I no longer wanted to exist if this was how my life was going to be. Spending years of traditional counselling had really gotten me nowhere except regretful that I had paid for it for so long, and had nothing to show for it. I ran across Melanie's website when searching for help from recovering from a relationship with a narcissist. From the first Quanta Freedom Healing session I had with Melanie, I made more headway than in all my 20+ years of traditional therapy. By the 3rd month, I was like a new person and had learned new ways to function and operate more in alignment with who I was and was becoming. Melanie has taught me so much in such a short time. For the first time ever, I have a loving and healthy relationship with a man that I truly love and adore and he shows me that he loves and adores me too. Never before in my 46 years of life, did I know how wonderful this feeling of love was and is and that it could be so easy. Thank you Melanie from the bottom of my heart and soul! You literally and in all reality saved me!
~ Sue M. Professional San Antonio, Texas USA
The suffering I experienced from my pathological ex-husband was intense. After 10 years of separation I was still broken, hoping to recover the marriage, and had no interest or joy in life. Then I stumbled across Melanie's website at a point when I was almost suicidal, and I didn't think I could go on for another day. I booked a healing, and I can barely believe the relief and joy that followed immediately. After two more sessions I am totally clear of feelings for my ex, totally know how hooked and powerless I have been, and now have a life of interests, goals and dreams again. Yes I will have the right relationship again, and it will be nothing like what I had experienced. I feel better than I could imagine. If this testimony helps other women find the solution that I did through Melanie I want to shout it out as loud as possible!
~ Merelyn C. UK
I just wanted to take the opportunity to say “thank you” for your website. This is the most detailed site on NPD and narcissistic men I have ever encountered. As I was reading (and crying), I could recall specific incidents during which what I was reading had occurred with my soon-to-be ex-boyfriend. I have lived with him for nearly 11 years now and had begun to believe I was going to have a nervous breakdown, but at the same time still trying to hold on to the “relationship” as it were. Reading your article gave me a sense of relief that it wasn’t me. I couldn’t believe how many other people have been experiencing this in their lives (I truly felt alone). I’ve read through your website twice already, and this is just the first day I found it. All the other sites I found didn’t seem to fully grasp what I was dealing with. Your site made me feel as if you actually knew my boyfriend personally (I know you understand fully what I mean). It really is true that if you haven’t lived it, you cannot begin to understand what someone else has experienced and how they feel. Anyway, my only purpose in sending this e-mail was to thank you from the very depths of my heart. I’m not crazy!!! Thank you Melanie.
~ Tina B. Mount Laurel, New Jersey, USA
I had been extremely fortunate to find Melanie at a time of great personal difficulty. Trying to leave a narcissistic relationship was painful and proving almost impossible. After being drawn to Mel I knew I was on the right path. After several Quanta freedom Healings I became empowered myself on a daily basis. Thank you so much Mel for showing me the compassion, providing healings, guidance, tuition and ongoing support always constantly delivered with the utmost professionalism that has enabled me to experience such enormous personal growth. I am eternally grateful, and now I am in a relationship with a magnificent, safe, loving and incredible man who is the love of my life. All of this within one year of meeting you!
~ H B VIC, Australia
I had several Quanta Freedom Healing sessions with Melanie and found them particularly effective - I was able to resolve quite complicated issues in a very short time span - and more importantly, was able to move through the issues with ease. I would recommend a healing with Melanie to anyone who is ready to let go of the past!
~ Tara H. Maldives
Hi Melanie, I have just done the first Quanta Freedom Healing session on Monday and was really good! Somehow I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders, I am planning on doing the second tomorrow night. Was great to devote some time to relaxation as well as have been finding it difficult coping with work whilst having these other dramas going on. Feeling much better and focused to catch up on work now! Have read all the e-books as part of the Narcissistic Abuse program now and have found them extremely helpful. Unbelievable how similar the situations can be, when you feel like the situation is unique to yourself, and you wonder why is this happening to me. Much relief after reading what those that narcissistically abuse people behave like, and that it isn't normal and you should no way be accepting the behaviour or be exhausted trying to fix / change someone. Didn't realise how much I have an issue with healthy boundaries until reading your e-book on that, so that has helped enormously. Thanks again for creating such wonderful resources for people in these sorts of situations, it has helped me immensely and has assisted in staying away from my ex-partner.
~ B. C. USA
Hi Melanie, I am so grateful for your very insightful and inspiring information and support. I am working through the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program and have found the Quanta Freedom Healings to be so very powerful and truly "healing". I have benefited so much, I cannot speak highly enough of you work. Thank you!
~ JS Tasmania, Australia
When you’re fragile, and don’t know what can or will work, it certainly can be very useful to know that people before you have succeeded to escape from the deadly grip, and gut-wrenching agony of narcissistic abuse. 
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