What Is Quanta Freedom Healing and How Does It Work?
Quanta Freedom Healing is the healing system which revolutionizes how to heal from narcissistic abuse. It transcends mere "survivor" recoveries (trying to manage ongoing symptoms) by creating "Thriver" recoveries, whereby the individual is more empowered, whole and joyful than they have ever been, even before being narcissistically abused.This profound healing process has transformed my life, and thousands of other people's lives, from 50 different countries world-wide – beyond description.
How it all began
The beginning of my profound healing journey began some years ago when, as a result of narcissistic abuse, I had a complete suicidal and psychotic break down. Some hours after this melt-down of my psyche, I surrendered completely to a higher power … I had run out of options, and I didn't know what else to do. In that split moment I had the mind-blowing epiphany, that the only way to heal was from the inside out.
This was pretty astounding for me. Because truly I blamed him for everything. I thought I was merely a pure victim of his carnage – an unfortunate statistic of a sociopath. I had also believed I could find a way to fix his mental disorder, and if I didn't that my life would be destroyed. Up until that point I had spent years agonizing over what he was doing, what he was saying, and trying to seek my answers through trying to change him – while completely avoiding my own wounds that were screaming out at me.
Within this intensely profound spiritual awakening, I instantly understood that the narcissist in my life was not the saviour of my wounds – he was in fact the messenger of my already existing wounds.
At that time I didn't have transformational healing tools – I had only received the profound awareness about what was really going on. I pulled away from the narcissist, somehow talked my way out of needing anti-psychotic medication, achieved strict No Contact and firmly focused my attention every day on healing myself.
I was already a holistic healer, and I started coaching others who had been narcissistically abused. Even though I could grant these people awareness and answers as to "why this had happened," I discovered six months later we were still going over the same pain and fear again and again, with little or no real progress. The weekly sessions were more of a "crutch" and a "dependency," and these individuals were not free or empowered in their own lives without these sessions. I didn't want ongoing sessions with these people. I didn't want them to need me – I wanted them to be well enough to not need me.My personal healing quest continued. I strove to be free from the wounds I was carrying, and I was constantly trying different healing modalities, as well as contemporary therapy, and continually striving to up-level my own abuse symptoms. Whilst doing so I was passionate about sharing any real discoveries with others.
My healing breakthroughs
On this quest I discovered huge personal breakthroughs with both theta healing and kinesiology. These were modalities that worked directly on the subconscious. As soon as I accessed these modalities, I could feel real healing taking place, at a level I hadn't felt before.
I was so impressed by the results, I began training diligently in both these healing modalities, and was thrilled to be able to completely eradicate my Complicated - Post Traumatic Stress Disorder symptoms with them. This occurred because I was able to find and release my causation inner wounding of these nervous system disorders. Previously, I had been told by contemporary health specialists, and numerous counsellors and psychologists, as well as recovery abuse forums that I would have C-PTSD for life. Yet, with the use of these tools, it took only two months for my symptoms to completely disappear.
However, my agoraphobic condition had not been healed, and I still had a deep-seated fear of being in open spaces or public places – which I had to constantly manage with different affirmation techniques, but could never actually heal it. It was crippling, but I didn't give up hope. I was confident that if I continued searching I could find the answer.
I started working with clients with kinesiology and theta healing. They also received real accelerated healing results, yet some had severe wounding, like mine, which was still resistant even with the use of these modalities. After a few months with clients who wanted to just "talk", and didn't want kinesiology or theta healing, I refused to continue coaching sessions. My heart wasn't in them anymore, because I knew it wasn't healing people – it was only providing "support". It didn't feel right when I saw accelerated healing with every client at an unprecedented rate when kinesiology or theta healing had been applied.I never again believed "talk therapy" could create any real healing for traumatic abuse – because it didn't.
When I 'met' Quanta Freedom Healing
I didn't realise that my life was going to change forever as a result of feeling inspired to combine three healing modalities into one.
How this happened is: I had been invited to meet a girlfriend in Thailand. Travelling overseas alone, with agoraphobia, was one of the most terrifying experiences of my life. I literally collapsed into her arms at the other end, and soon, within the confines of the hotel perimeter, I felt happy and safe again, yet I was terrified about leaving the hotel surrounds. I wanted to be "normal". I wanted to "live". I wanted to experience Koh Sumui. So, one quiet afternoon in my hotel room, I set the very firm intention that I was going to access the solution to heal myself.
I relaxed, I opened my body, my heart and my mind ... then the channelling of how to combine three modalities occurred, and I took notes as if taking dictation from a much greater and more knowledgeable Source than myself. I recorded the process, and it felt so right. Then I applied this process by reaching deeply inside myself, identifying, claiming, releasing and transforming the stuck emotional wounds that were the very reason I was horrifically agoraphobic. The weird thing was: I felt like I had been doing this process my entire life.
Two hours later I was playing in life – more than I had ever done – ever. I was out in a crowded market street in Koh Sumui, and I felt connected to everything as Oneness and love without any fear.
During the hotel room session on myself, I had received the deep and absolute knowing that I had always been agoraphobic, all my life: it was just that narcissistic abuse had brought it up in such an intensified form that there was no avoiding this truth anymore.
Now I just did not have agoraphobia.And it never came back.
My rapidly evolving self
After this Quanta Freedom Healing breakthrough occurred, I was finally able to let go of other inner wounds at an incredible rate, and replace them with a beingness that far surpassed my greatest expectations. I was literally able to evolve myself from the "fearful" areas of my life into what I call my "True Self Function".
This was more than just letting go of wounds. I was tapping into what I now know as the "Super Conscious", or in other words Source / Life / God – a Higher Infinite Intelligence which had unlimited potential to not only heal me, but also "expand" me into understandings, potential and emotional freedom which far exceeded my previous "normal identity".
For the first time ever, I knew what it was to have real joy, and a real love for myself that was not reliant on conditions. I literally knew what it was like to be in life feeling whole. I had never experienced those feelings before, even way before being narcissistically abused.In fact, I had never known such a level of existence was even possible.
Quanta Freedom Healing with others
When I started using Quanta Freedom Healing in sessions with clients, I discovered these people were detaching from narcissists – breaking free emotionally, mentally and physically, and then they were reaching for breakthrough healings for other areas of their lives where they had always felt stuck or limited.
These clients became excited about creating their lives from the inside out, and loved experiencing the miracles that life was rapidly reflecting back to them. ALL areas of their lives targeted with Quanta Freedom Healing were improving rapidly. Strikingly, these individuals were also experiencing the organic emergence of profound insights, peace and wholeness as a result of connecting to their Higher Power. As it happened with myself, this was information and states not necessarily learned – rather a beingness that simply unfolded from within.
This was in dire contrast to the previous "talk" therapy clients who typically six months later still couldn't let go of the ongoing addictive and obsessional thoughts and feelings about "what he / she had done" – issues that were clearly stuck in repeat.
I learnt very quickly that if clients wanted to take up time in sessions talking about traumatic issues, this was a complete waste of session time (as well as our energy resources) going over and over the issue with little or no resolution. So instead I would step in, stop the conversation, and lead them into the Quanta Freedom Healing process to locate, release and shift the related trapped painful emotions and beliefs somatically.
The results were always the same – we would try to go back to "the issue" and the consensus was: "What issue? I can't find it now!" Then, we could work through the next issue and the next and the next, without getting stuck, and my clients were continually up-levelling, expanding and moving forward.
I know 100% that many big issues could take decades (if ever) to resolve, yet with this system they can be cleared away in minutes. In fact, I know simply "talking about it" would never have located the real inner wound in the first place.
Thriving versus surviving
The implementation of Quanta Freedom Healing in my life and work has not only allowed me to emotionally and personally expand, evolve and grow to levels that I never knew existed, it is the exact reason why so many people in this Community are not simply mere survivors of narcissistic abuse.
In stark contrast, they are Thriving.
I know what it is like to merely survive. I was a "survivor" for years, which means the daily struggle of managing ongoing symptoms. This is why I am so incredibly passionate about throwing that old "survivor" label away.
Yes, surviving is a stage – but it is not the real "goal". I believe we deserve and can reach for so much more than mere and painful survival.
If you have "escaped" and you are "breathing" you have "survived". Is that enough to generate and enjoy a fulfilled life at every level of your being? No, no, noooo!
I know without any doubt that I was meant to (for a higher reason) go through this life and death journey and discover this healing process. Because I would never be doing the mission I do if I hadn't. And I would not be living the most incredible life I could imagine in my wildest dreams.
This is what I want for everyone who has been through the devastation of abuse.Now I am going to explain to you why Quanta Freedom Healing is so effective.
Informational and transformational healing
It's important to understand the difference between "informational healing" and "transformational healing". "Informational healing" means receiving an "idea" regarding how to change.
The difficulty and long path of "informational healing" is that it is an attempt to create a new life direction without addressing deep subconscious wounding. You may have heard the expression "It just doesn't sink in". That expression is the exact truth. The information you are receiving at the cognitive mind level does not have the ability to communicate with your subconscious, where almost all of our patterns are playing out. It is the energy of e-motion (energy in motion) that creates our thought patterns, fear and associated behaviour.
Additionally, even if it could, there is so much pain and fear in the subconscious blocking where this new "idea" needs to penetrate and be embodied, there is simply no "space" for the new and healthier information to enter and take hold.
Informational healing can work for aspects of our life that are not crucial issues for us, as there is very little subconscious fear, pain and resistance (e-motion) inside us attached to those particular topics. Informational healing is mostly ineffective for profound emotional wounding, which of course is what being abused creates. This is why, generally speaking, it doesn't matter what you read, or what therapists you see, or how much good advice you receive – you simply can't let go of the pain and escape your victimised thoughts and feelings, and associated powerlessness and traumatised actions or non-actions.
As a result, your symptoms of trauma don't heal."You can't drive a Ferrari in the garage on top of the old wreck blocking the way," and Debbie Ford's expression "You can't put ice-cream on top of poop," relate exactly to the futility of trying to bring in new information on top of the old that is still stuck there.
The pain is generated from trapped painful emotions in your body
Your wounding originally took hold in your subconscious. That is where the emotional wounding is held and trapped, and within your subconscious is where your ongoing trauma and symptoms are being generated. One of the most simple and profound realisations is this: when we have unresolved trauma, it is trapped in our bodies. It then has "a life of its own". What this means is we have internalised the abuser, and the abusive acts and we remain bonded to them, and we will continue re-living and re-creating that abuse over and over again.
Our unconscious traumas will come to consciousness. If we don't go inwards to them ourselves, they appear to us – outside of us – via events and people in life. And we hook into this mentally, emotionally and often literally. We continue putting ourselves in abusive situations, or at the very least we continue re-traumatising ourselves with ongoing obsessional thoughts of abuse, powerlessness and victimhood.
We may feel totally helpless to stop doing this. That's why this trauma has to be accessed and released at a much deeper level than cognitive thinking, which is only mere "information".
Our emotional wounds can be likened to physical wounds. Imagine a physical wound being painful, and you understand that until the wound is healed, the pain won't stop. The more the wound is ignored and left untreated, the further it festers and spreads, and the pain continues. Talking about physical wounds doesn't heal them. Nor does it heal emotional wounds.Our untreated emotional wounds fester and permeate into our entire life. Just like a physical wound – if emotional wounding is tended to directly, it can be addressed and healed.
Working directly with the subconscious
We have access to incredible personal power when we know how to access and work with our subconscious. The incredibly disappointing thing is we were not educated to know that working with our subconscious is essential.
Interestingly, the process is far less complicated than trying to resolve emotional issues with our minds. Our mind actually has no ability to resolve our intense emotional issues – hence why it gets so confused and completely over-complicates and perpetuates traumatised emotions. Make these statements and realise how disconnected and ridiculous they are – "I think devastated," "I think violated," "I think abandoned."
Instead of fruitlessly trying to think your way out of emotional pain, you can use an effective process that addresses, shifts and transforms your emotional wounding at a subconscious level. Then no longer are you trying to change yourself whilst remaining trapped in emotional agony. And no longer will your Inner Identity remain blocked off from receiving vital new information.Precisely the vital information you require in order to get well.
The shift in "how we heal"
There is a revolutionary movement now taking place in regard to how we face and heal issues in our life.
It's a shift that our world desperately requires on a micro (personal) and macro (world) level – if we want to stop the cycles of abuse devastating lives, and the continuation of painful victimhood and abuse / abused cycles (all as a result of unhealed inner wounding) being passed on from generation to generation. This "how to heal" shift is growing in exposure, and is creating such widespread and powerful results many people no longer think of it as "fluffy," "new agey" or "weird."
There are many other healers, apart from myself, who do realise the direct path to healing, and there are many therapists who now access the body's emotions and reach the subconscious in order to create shifts and results which are astounding in comparison to traditional talk therapy. I receive regular referrals from medical professionals, health services, social workers, abuse services, psychologists and counsellors who have recognised that my Quanta Freedom Healing process works, and creates abuse recoveries that the "old system" just can't produce. Many of these therapists and health service individuals now use Quanta Freedom Healing to up-level their own lives.
The reason the old system doesn't work for people suffering intense abuse trauma is because traditional therapy is an attempt to manage the symptoms without addressing the root emotional cause. This includes logical strategies or medication to minimize the pain and hopefully function in life, without actually finding and transforming the actual emotional wounding. This leaves people with the struggle of trying to manage unresolved wounding that just doesn't go away. Over time, and when more trauma accumulates (which is probable when inner wounds are disowned), emotional pain compounds and gets worse.
I firmly believe that the only way to change deep unconscious wounding (the core of the trauma) is by using a system that can directly reach into the subconscious, find the wound and then release it from where it is stored. This requires taking awareness away from the mind, and into the emotions and energy in the body, and using a language that the subconscious understands.
Talk therapy is beta brainwave; it is not deep inner body recognition and accessing, which is theta brainwave. Beta brainwave seeks outwards away from the wound. Theta brainwave seeks inwards towards the wound. Using talk therapy to address profound inner emotional trauma is like trying to access a specific radio program whilst having your dial on a completely different frequency.
The larger the wound and associated trauma, the faster the brainwaves (beta frequency), which take an individual further away from finding and healing the wound. This is the state of blaming, victimisation, holding others responsible, feeling powerless and aggrieved, and perpetuating panic, fear and trauma.It is only when we train ourselves to turn inwards, slow our brainwaves down, let go of the mind "stories" and feel inwards that we can go directly into the wound. This is the state of establishing self-love and self-acceptance, and connecting to our ability to generate inner solidness, inner wisdom and inner empowerment.
Quanta Freedom Healing changes how you deal with pain
Gently and supportively my system trains you to stop trying to deal with pain the way you were previously conditioned to.
Quanta Freedom Healing completely changes the way you process emotional pain. It teaches you how to shut off your mind when emotional pain hits, and instead of "trying to think your way out of it", takes you inwards to your subconscious, where you will receive true answers and the ability to free yourself from the trauma.
Your subconscious has stored all of your emotional belief systems and wounds, and when you know how to access it directly, it will show you everything you need to know, and will allow you to find, embrace and release your wounding.
I know what it was like to spend years in my mind, knowing I had issues but not knowing exactly what they were. My issues were in fact my "normal" – I had lived with them for decades, and until narcissistic abuse I knew how to "somehow" function with them. We are all the same. When we are in "normal operation" we have blind-spots because we don't know anything different. So, truly, I know you may have accepted that you need to find out what it is in your subconscious that you need to release, yet in your mind you are struggling to find the REAL answers.
People write to me in blog and forum posts all the time, "How can I know or find out what it is that I need to release?" My answer is always the same – "It isn't until you go into a Module (QFH Process), and follow the process that your subconscious will show you. Until this happens you are only guessing." This is why so many people, even with the awareness of what they do that isn't serving them, have never found out the true reason as to why they are doing it.
In other words, they have never located and released the emotional wounding that is generating this fear, anxiety, needy behaviour, handing power over, terror of abandonment, perpetual feelings of unworthiness – and the list goes on and on.
Humility and self-ownership is the first step. "I know I have this issue," but that is still miles away from releasing the issue. The release can only happen when you are in partnership with your subconscious – in communication with it – and then it reveals to you exactly what the wound is.
I promise you this is not something only "gifted" people can do. It is in fact the most organic way of meeting and being with yourself, and it is powerfully natural. The more and more you do the process, you begin to feel how easy and "right" it is – as if you have always been doing it. It is your intrinsic human ability to be in deep partnership with your Inner Being, and it is the only way to free yourself from your inner wounding, transform yourself, and become the radiant being you were always meant to be (your natural state without your wounds.)
Then you can experience how direct this process is, how easily the information comes, and how much incredible sense what you discover about yourself makes. You know 100% these are true answers, and you are not just second-guessing yourself or making up "mind stories". And you realise what a profound relief it is to be working directly on your own consciousness, creating your life consciously, rather than living it painfully by default unconsciously.
In fact you wonder how you ever did live your life the old way, and you profoundly realise why life was so "hit and miss" and was creating so much pain. Within the Quanta Freedom Healing process you will be astounded at how you just know the answers you need to know, and how simple it is to shift wounding out of your body, and how natural it is to start accessing the wisdom of a higher and more evolved truth which does set you free.
You will find inside yourself exactly what you were always trying to find outside of yourself, and you will begin to know with every ounce of your being, that nothing was ever going to be-come your outer experience authentically until you established it as an inner state first. You have to "be" it and then it will "come".Now I'm going to take you through the Quanta Freedom Healing process step by step...
Step 1: Locate The Wound
The Quanta Freedom Healing process begins by asking your permission to connect to your inner space energetically. If your intention is to grant your full attention to the healing, and to connect and participate without distractions, your brain slows down and enters a theta brainwave state.
Theta brainwave brings your mind down to the frequency of the 4–7 Hertz range. This is the same brain frequency you were often operating in as a child, but as an adult, after 12 years old (usually), you can only access this slower frequency when drowsy or meditating. Theta brainwave grants you access to inside yourself. It allows you to shut out the outer world (which is constantly processing in your cognitive mind in beta brainwave) so that you can partner deeply with your Inner Being.
Theta brainwave is essential. Trying to partner with your Inner Being in beta brainwave is like staring at a car bonnet trying to guess a mechanical issue without raising the hood. You can't get past the "shut gate" to your subconscious in beta brainwave. The Quanta Freedom Process opens this "gate," and leads you directly inwards to the emotional wounding that is responsible for all negative thoughts, emotions, physical manifestations, fears, doubts, confusion and anything at all that is not working in your life.
Especially the things that are happening to you that are dreadful. The abuse, punishment and atrocities that are in your experience, are exactly this, because: they match inner wounds you haven't found and released yet.
The trap of blaming and shaming
I completely understand how you may say, "How can it be my fault or my stuff WHEN this person is doing such horrible things to me?!"
Boy did I used to feel like that myself!
This is not about blaming ourselves.
Our subconscious is generating forty millions of bits of information per second, as opposed to the mere forty bits per second of our conscious mind. Information that we are not normally aware of. Our subconscious has so much more power than we realise; it has so much more power than our logical mind.
We all have emotional programs operating in the background running our thoughts, emotions, the lens that we view the world through, how we show up in specific situations, and the types of people and situations that we attract and are attracted to. Neuro-scientists believe that by age 35, at least 85% (usually 90 - 95%) of our life is being driven by our subconscious programs on auto-pilot.
So what makes up our subconscious programming? Many emotional components that we did NOT choose logically. In fact very little of it was chosen by us consciously. Our subconscious programming was not created by logical thought. It was created by our emotional responses to events in our life – every emotional event back through our timeline to the present day. Our subconscious holds all of it.
Additionally, our subconscious programming is comprised of our previous ancestors' unresolved emotional beliefs which we inherited through our DNA, and our childhood emotional programming which we had no power in theta childhood brainwave to detach from or dismiss. As children we didn't have a developed secure "self" who could detach and not personalise and internalise (take inside of us) painful triggered fearful emotions. We were in pure emotional reaction to our environment which shaped us.
Bruce Lipton, a renowned neuro-scientist, speaks of a foetus gestating in a hostile, unsafe, sad, painful, traumatic or panicked environment, and how the back of the brain became larger to hold more fearful belief systems. This meant you may have been born with already existing fear and defences to equip you with growing up in a fearful environment. Then of course you were faced with the parents who granted you more fearful and painful emotional internal beliefs.
It's important to understand that we are not to blame! We had no choice in so much of this! Feeling personally judged and blamed for what happened to you, or blaming others for "what happened" is not an empowering orientation – and it is not going to help you get well.
What is an empowering orientation is realising this: so within – so without. This means if life has dished up painful events, there is trauma stuck in our subconscious which matches it – point blank.
The path of the Thriver is this:
"Once the trauma is in my body and my cells, I am 100% responsible for it, regardless of how it got there. Only I can go to it, meet it, embrace it, and release and transform it into something so much healthier."
The path of the Victim is this:
"I will keep focusing outwards away from my internal wounds, hate myself for feeling this pain, and hold others responsible for this wounding rather than take responsibility for it myself. And I will hold firm that they SHOULD fix it."
Naturally the outward victim's path stunts all growth, evolution and healing – whereas the inward Thriver's path allows for unlimited growth, expansion and evolution.To become empowered and have mastery over your life, you have to get your attention into your body and be willing to work on yourself at this level.
Tracking inwards to the wounds and activating self-love
So how do we find our inner subconscious wounding?
The Quanta Freedom Healing process directs your attention into where you feel the emotional angst in your body. This is the first step to getting out of your head and going inside – and because you are in theta brainwave in the energy "container" of the healing, you now have access. At first this takes some practice, because we have all been so used to looking outwards powerlessly with our emotional pain.
A NARP Community Member named Arnel posted an incredible comment on my blog. This is what he wrote: “Hang on a minute, why do I care what he's thinking, feeling or doing?! How about, how do I feel about what I'm thinking or feeling or doing?” That's me returning to myself. That's self-love. And that is the most rewarding lesson I've learned so far in NARP (The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program)."
His comment is the absolute truth. When we stop trying to deal with our emotional pain outside of ourselves and go inside directly to it – then we CAN shift it. We have to stop looking outwards thinking about what happened to us, and go inwards to transform why this happened to us.
Self love, if we were to give it one definition means: Fully being with ourselves.
When we take our attention into the part of our body that is holding the wound, we are able to start working on the wound which is screaming out for the most attention right now. Then we can release the wounds, one-by-one, which are making life unbearable and are severely impacting our ability to function. Every emotional or mental agony represents a trapped inner emotion in our body. The bigger and the more "infected" the inner wound is, the more it bursts through into our consciousness as trauma.
Until we go inwards, we don't know what the wound is, and we have no idea what is actually generating it. In fact we believe the wound is caused by something outside of us. Sorting out the internal emotional wounds has nothing to do with "logic".
Logic will only ever look to the outside world and try to change, control or stop something or someone in order to try to relieve the inner wound.It doesn't work….
The Young Inner Wounds
Our logical mind (pure surface / symptom level) believes that the trauma is a just now thing.
"I ONLY hurt now, and that is all my pain relates to – what has happened to me NOW."
When we begin our conscious inner transformational journey (making the unconscious conscious) we realise certain deeper, wider and much bigger picture truths. We start dealing at the causation level rather than trying to merely manage the symptoms of the wounds. We realise that in our experience of narcissistic abuse, we were not showing up from a mature, healed, evolved inner centre.
I promise you with all of my heart we had "gaps"– we had wounds that did not allow us to be the fortunate people who are not unconsciously attracted to narcissists. We were not the individuals who, when cracks appeared or something felt "off", could easily speak up, investigate and clarify, lay clear boundaries, honour themselves, or observe narcissists' unhealthy behaviour without personalising, feeling hooked or devastated. Unlike these individuals, we felt powerless to emotionally detach and know "Not My Reality" even well before the abuse and destruction began.
These natural narc-free people are not "smarter" than we are, and their ability to not be taken in by narcissists has nothing to do with their logical decisions (no-one would logically pick an abuser) or even immense knowledge about narcissists, or even assertion training. The reason certain people will never be in relationships with narcissists is because their levels of emotional health – established in their Inner Beings – were different from ours.
Children who had a healthy genetic DNA, experienced emotionally healthy gestations, and received unconditional love from birth, knowing they were loveable and worthy because they existed (not subject to the conditions of what you do or don't do, how you look, or what you achieve), and who learnt healthy boundaries and limits, how to self-soothe, how to process delayed gratification, and how to self-source belief, love and acceptance of self, were well equipped to never be susceptible to narcissists.
These children understood the healthy emotional message: What you have done that is wrong does not mean YOU are wrong. That was not us….
It is a total fallacy (which runs rampant in narcissist abuse recovery forums) that anyone can fall for, or be taken in by a narcissist. I find the victim model "I was completely tricked by a narcissist, and there is nothing about me that needs adjustment" incredibly distressing and powerless, and abusive when perpetuated by forum organisers – because there is no hope of anyone getting better with that model.
In the many true recoveries I have had the joy of being a part of – I have never seen one happen with someone determined to hang on to the victim model. Rather, I see these people post on social media and in recovery groups the same pain, the same issues, and the same trauma months and years afterwards, with no progress. I've seen the same people doing this year after year.
So, finally, we can understand the truth – our trauma that we thought was an outer problem is in fact an inner problem, and when we change our subconscious programming we will be the people who don't have inner abuse wounding and programming. Then we can observe narcissists from a healthy mature adult inner centre (rather than showing up in abuse with young unhealed inner wounding), and we will not be attracted to them, get hooked by them, feed them any energy, and we will no longer feel compelled to change them, or fruitlessly try to force them to be accountable.
Instead, we fully detach and start generating the healthy life that IS a match for our transformed healthy Inner Identity. That is what the Thriver model creates if we are determined to go inside and heal ourselves – because this is the only place we can change a life that hasn't been working.
So back to the Quanta Freedom Healing process…
When you track back through your body, and open up to its information through the Quanta Freedom Healing Process, you "ask about" and "hear" the age of the original wounding that relates to the exact emotional agony you are feeling now. Your intuition (body) supplies it to you, and you learn to trust that flash of the image, the age that pops into your head, or the gut feeling that simply presents. Often this is information our logical mind didn't remember.
Our subconscious, in stark contrast, knows and stores everything that has ever happened.
At this point you know where in your body your subconscious is holding the wound, and you know the age of it. Then the next part of the process is to bring your attention into that young previous wound and ask it “What is this really about?” Then you have access to receive the information – the words, the feelings, the thoughts and often vivid memories of exactly what is really going on.The more we trust the language of our body, and what it is revealing to us, the more we start to regularly experience the incredible connections to information about the true cause of our original wounds and why we have been suffering abuse.
The Truth About Meeting Our Inner Identity
I understand that meeting your inner emotional wounding may seem terrifying. After all, most of us have had a life career of trying to avoid our painful emotions. But I promise you, there is incredible relief when you direct yourself to go towards, be with, and feel what it is that is really going on inside you, without judgement.
The absolute truth is: Complicated and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is the Inner Being panic of knowing there is no one home tending to extreme, screaming wounds! I have seen countless cases of C-PTSD dissolving away once people start working the inner journey of accepting, being with and releasing inner wounds with Quanta Freedom Healing. These symptoms go, because finally the Inner Being knows the "self" (who must be present for the job) has shown up.
When we are in our head and disconnected from our emotional centre and Inner Being, the pain is intense, excruciating, random and unmanageable. We panic; we try to run from it. We self-loathe because we hate ourselves for being in pain (false-love with conditions), we grab addictions or medication to try to shut it up (self-abandonment), and the pain chases us harder to try to get our attention – to come to it, be with it and heal it. The more we self-avoid, the louder the pain screams.
Your emotional devastation, mental anguish and physical pain are all coming from the trauma that the young inner part of you is trapped in. Can you imagine your five year old daughter or son running up to you in emotional agony and you turning your back and saying, "Go away, shut up. You're an idiot. How dare you feel pain, its WRONG!" How tormented, annihilated and devastated would he or she be now?
Rather, what do you think would happen if you turned to this five year old, granted your full attention, held him or her lovingly, heard her or him fully, and had a process to release the trauma up and out of him or her? I want you to really feel into what I just wrote – because it is vital. If you do, finally you can understand the devastating cost to yourself of ignoring your inner wounds. This horrible cost is agonising emotions, devastating ongoing thoughts and signing up for more abuse – certain self-abuse of yourself, and probable abuse from others. Certainly a life of guaranteed continued victimisation.
Are you prepared to keep paying such a hefty price?
I hope you are "getting" the picture of the personal transformation that can take place, if you turn inwards to your Inner Being with love, without judgement, totally ready to open up and be present lovingly, and listen to the truth without turning away and being repulsed.
Irrefutably you start getting well – powerfully and quickly. Healthier than you have ever been your entire life.
Not only do you heal your attachment and obsessions that are hooking you to abuse and abusers, you also start releasing the wounds which have been playing out for all or much of your life. Wounds which have held you back from your full joy and potential in many areas of your life
Step 2: Releasing the Wounding
In order to be free of the wounds, one-by-one we need to load up the wound energetically so that it can be released. We used to think crying was a release. And it is, in that it releases a great deal of the traumatic energy which is consciously being felt. However, if the causation of the wound isn't released then the negative thoughts, emotions and any physical symptoms simply re-build, and the agony about the same thing comes back. This is why people can cry daily, even for years, without getting better.
The Quanta Freedom Healing is a formulated process which loads up energy specific to the wound that is being targeted in a shift, by accessing the related conscious pain body energy, the time-line energy (the associations generating that particular wound from the past) and the connected DNA generational energy. This energy is then gathered and put into a holding bay within the body to be released.
This portion of the Quanta Freedom Healing process, whether in a Healing Module, or when I work with clients personally, happens automatically as directed from my intention, beliefs, specific words, visualisations and muscle testing. If you have accessed and are with the wound, and simply keep your body open and breathe (not allowing yourself to be pulled out of your body by "mind stories") the loading up process happens without you having to do anything except "be" in the healing space. I do all of that part for you.
Then together through a simple visualisation process, which is conducted in the language your subconscious understands, the release is done. The negative, painful energy and all of its related causation components are released from your body.By doing so, you become freer, lighter, more spacious and often experience immediate emotional somatic relief.
What Really Keeps Us Safe
When we release wounds, and start to intentionally create inner emotional shifts – wisdom organically emerges. We start to understand profound Universal truths which we were not educated about previously.
We used to believe that we had to hang on to fear and pain. We believed this was essential to protect us. This is a huge fallacy.
When you release pain and fear out of your body, the more space, wisdom and knowing emerges where the pain and fear used to be, and you become the essential empowerment of Who You Really Are – a being of love, Oneness and expansion without fear and pain.
From this inner solid state, you deeply understand that your safety depends on observation (not emotional judgement), and the calm wisdom: "Does this or doesn't this serve me?' without painful emotional attachment. When your Inner Being becomes healthy, your can observe the truth without your young wounds being involved, and you easily make decisions that honour yourself which represent self-love – from a place of maturity, solid integrity and self-empowerment.
Your emotions no longer derail you, hook you into more of those painful emotions, and you no longer hand your power over and continue to damage yourself with reaction, powerlessness or trying to force abusers to fix your emotional state for you. You don't allow abuse or co-generate it, when your emotional fear of betrayal or rejection and needing love and approval from outside of yourself no longer exists. There is no emotional attachment left to "what is not healthy for you" when you clean up your inner wounds.
Ultimately, when we release pain and fear, we realise that our energy was being corrupted, blocked, burned up and drained, trying to manage and live with these wounds. When we release the wounds, we release our own lifeforce that was tied up in them. This previously trapped energy breaks free and expands within us as its pure organic essence. We unlock our pure, true unlimited potential to experience life as creative, dynamic, expanding, loving and joyous beings – which is our natural state. And we feel it!
The bigger the inner wound we release, the bigger piece of ourselves we win back. When we start to experience the real and incredible results of this – it becomes EXCITING! We get to feel the direct results of our own expansion and inner flourishing.Because of this process, we can evolve ourselves to no longer "hate" our emotional pain. In fact we look forward to it presenting itself to us, because we know we can instantly up-level aspects of our life that we struggled with previously – if we go inwards, claim this pain, and release it.
Step 3: Bringing in Your True Self Function (Source Energy) to Replace the Wound
The next part of the Quanta Freedom Healing process is to bring in the Source / Life / God truth down into the subconscious. This relates to your personal understanding of a Higher Power. To you this may simply be "lifeforce" or "consciousness" – the energy that the entire Universe is buzzing with, connected by and unfolding itself with.
Because the wound has been released, a space is now available where the Energy of Life – wisdom, calm, self-love, self-worth and self-acceptance (security, safety, support, co-partnering, flourishing) can come down into the space where the wound once was. This is the Energy of solidness – a connection to Life and Self in healthy, empowered and self-loving ways – creating the wisdom of "how to do life" naturally and organically.
This Higher Power truth knows how to honour self and life holistically. This Energy is not self-rejection, self-abandonment, self-punishment or enabling abusers to continue abusing. This is the energy of Connection and Love rather than separation and fear. The Energy allows you to connect to The Truth, that you are a magnificent being who is at "One" with Source / Life / God, and your worth is not dependent on conditions. This Energy allows you to somatically know that you are adored by all of existence simply because you exist.
This Energy is your direct connection and Source with all of the worthiness, love, security, belief, trust and safety you were always trying to gain outside of yourself through inauthentic sources. This is the coming home to yourself. This is the co-partnering and parenting of this Energy which provides you with all the wisdom, love, understanding and security that you missed out on from your parents, from love partners, and most of all from yourself.
The more and more you clear your wounds and connect to and fill up with this True Source, the more you start expressing your true radiance – Who You Really Are, a being of love, joy, expansion, happiness and confidence without requiring certain conditions to be so. Simply because you become Love and Lifeforce itself unencumbered by wounds.
Then you start generating a life which represents exactly the flourishing, nourishing, joy and love that is inherent from this state. Life then starts responding to you as exactly that, and you easily leave alone situations and people who are Not Your Reality.
You become the miracle within and without and you deeply realise it is all the same thing... Not as a concept you are trying to convince yourself about. It becomes a deep absolute knowing anchored in your body.
The incredible truth that sets us free
What is a complete phenomenon (yet becomes more and more "natural") is each time you get a shift in your body you instantly and literally have changed your mind. The previous painful thoughts are gone – you simply can't access them. Where the painful, angry, confused or devastated emotions once were is now replaced with calmness, wisdom and a natural state of solidness, acceptance, clarity and empowerment. There is a total shift on topics that only minutes before created terrible anguish and concern.
The utter truth of human existence is this: your ineffectual mind does not re-train your almighty subconscious easily; it is a gruelling up-hill battle. When devastating emotions and intense inner wounds are involved, that process is almost impossible, as myself and many other people have discovered.
Up-levelling your Life was never meant to work that way. Up-levelling your life is all about breaking the cycle of unconsciousness. Unconsciousness is the inability to self-reflect and realise that we are the emotional creators of our own experiences. It is the powerlessness of trying to control and change situations outside of ourselves to improve our life rather than evolving ourselves and changing our experience from the inside out.
Often it's only when we suffer horrific breakdowns in our lives that our inner wounds genuinely get our attention, because finally we know life cannot continue as "business as usual" unless we find a solution to get better. Often we go inside only after we have exhausted every possible avenue outside of ourselves. I have no doubt the gravity and trauma of narcissistic abuse is no less than this massive wake-up call in our life, because this is about as emotionally traumatic as life can get.
The true purpose of our emotional pain is this: to make our unconscious wounds conscious, so that we can go inside, find these wounds and finally evolve ourselves and come home to Who We Really Are.
This is not just about creating a healthier future for ourselves, it is also about stopping the cycle of victimisation and pain for our future generations. Fortunately, now we have a tool and a process that absolutely work, which create evolutionary healing – true fast-track liberation that is our evolved right to claim and experience. No longer do we need to battle and suffer….Thank goodness … because life and our world desperately need to change.
Quanta Freedom Healing Resources
To date, I have used Quanta Freedom Healing with hundreds of clients in one-on-one sessions.
Then, when I couldn't keep up with the escalating demand for personal healings, I created specific Quanta Freedom Healing MP3 recordings for all three of my Healing Programs – The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program, The Empowered Self Course and The Transforming Family of Origin Wounds Course – so that people all over the world could access this profound healing system affordably, instantly and work with it at any time, from the comfort of their own home.
The Quanta Freedom Healing Program that I am especially passionate about is the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP). This Program, which is specifically created to heal Inner Identity abuse belief systems and wounds, has created Thriver recoveries for thousands of people from over 50 different countries. NARP has liberated men and women aged between 18 and 80 years of age, from all walks of life, from the devastation of abusive intimate partners, family members and any other damaging individual.
This Program regularly creates healing results that are deemed impossible medically and psychologically, within time periods that are also unprecedented. NARP has not only saved people from literal and emotional death, it has granted people the direct pathway to create a greater life than they have ever previously had access to.
Learn more about Quanta Freedom Healing Resources.