In 2012 I was diagnosed with chronic fatigue and depression. By 2015, I was alcohol dependent, overweight and could hardly get off the couch. The psychiatrist said I had to leave him or die due to his narcissistic abuse.

I tried antidepressants, medications and therapy. I believed he could take the children, our friends and the money.

I joined NARP in October 2015, and left him in November when I realised that he would never change. I relied on NARP without therapy or medication till the divorce in early 2018.

By then he had little interest in the kids – he was verbally, at times physically, abusive with them yet had a stronger relationship with our 8-year-old son.

He found someone and had to be the “perfect father”, so he escalated the smear campaign against me.

He said I was alienating the kids from him – that I was a mentally ill alcoholic, bitter over the divorce and his re-partnering – falsely claiming I was a Schizophrenic.

I armed myself with NARP and shifted limiting beliefs about why my kids would rather be with him:

• I am worthless.
• He has a new, better, shiny, working, not fat version of me.
• He has family, connections, money.
• Everyone will believe his version of the story, he is more charming and likeable than me.
• I am alone and unsupported.
• I will not be able to financially support myself.

By shifting those beliefs this manifested:

• Three of my four children saw through him.
• He tripped on his lies consistently – they were exposed in our mediations and negotiations.
• My lawyer was excellent but his was even better. Turns out his expensive lawyer consistently acted for our children’s best interests, not the narc’s, I wasn’t alone or unsupported.
• The mediated parenting agreement was a stroke of brilliance.
• I went back to work in a high-paying, high-status role.